Relationship or couples counseling is often the last step for marriages on the verge of divorce. Some couples are proactive and start counseling at the first sign of problems in their relationship. Counseling is something that couples should not be afraid to try, no matter how small the problem may seem. Catching small problems early with counseling can prevent bigger problems down the road and can sometimes prevent a future divorce.
It is no longer uncommon for marriages of 30 or 40 years to end in divorce which is a shame as often times these couples have not been open to counseling and they will never know if their marriage could have been saved. Baby Boomers seem more eager to try new things, which makes counseling a good option.
Whether you’ve been in the relationship for 3 months, 3 years or two decades. It’s never too late to try counseling to resolve problems. And it’s never too late to try to keep small problems from becoming big ones. If the relationship is relatively new, you might think that you’re admitting to problems and admitting that the relationship is rocky by suggesting counseling. But that’s not true. By facing any obstacles now, you’re making the relationship stronger in the long run.
Although every marriage has its ups and downs and many problems can be worked through, sometimes a divorce is the only logical choice and holding on pointlessly can be damaging and unhealthy. Once divorce is inevitable, and while it is one of the most painful and distressful points in a couples relationship, it does not have to be the destructive and costly experience that we have all heard about.
As with couples counseling where therapists seek to guide couples to a healthier future, a professional Divorce Mediator seeks to helps to facilitate and guide couples through the end of their marriage to a future that considers parenting plans, asset disposition, expense management and all of the unique and important particulars of the couple and their children. While the marriage may be ending, the responsibilities that come with parenting need to survive the marriage and mediation helps couples to to achieve this rather than leaving these delicate affairs in the hands of the court system.